Sex and Sexuality

Argov, Sherry. Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dream Girl--A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship.
Sherry Argov’s Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself.

Bass, Ellen and Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal
The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who, was sexually abused as a child -- and those who care about her. Although the effects of child sexual abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possible. The authors weave personal experience with professional knowledge to show the reader how she can come to terms with her past while moving powerfully into the future. They provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, a map of the healing journey, and many moving first-person examples of the recovery process drawn from their interviews with hundreds of survivors.

Carlin, Deborah and Jennifer Di Grazia (editors). Queer Cultures.
This unique anthology presents the most important and influential essays in GLBT and Queer Studies during the past twenty years. Presented in a way that is historically contextualized, politically complex, and far-reaching across different disciplines, the readings demonstrate the ways in which queer theory has begun to transform some of the prevailing assumptions underlying GLBT studies.

Chernin, Kim. My Life as a Boy
A woman should think before she acts, err on the side of caution, listen to doubting words. So Kim Chernin was taught, and so she knew how to act when someone desired her. What she never knew was how to go after what she wanted - at least not without having second thoughts. Then, in her thirties, she learned to be a boy. By turns provocative and insightful, My Life as a Boy is a story of a woman pursuing what she wants without hesitation.

Day, Frances Ann. Lesbian and Gay Voices: An Annotated Bibliography and Guide to Literature for Children and Young Adults.
Written to support librarians and educators in their efforts to provide young people with positive literary images, this groundbreaking guide provides detailed annotations and recommendations for over 275 books.

DeLaria, Lea. Lea's Book of Rules for the World.
Stand-up comic DeLaria has succeeded on and off Broadway and on comedy stages throughout America. She is sometimes over-the-top, offensive, and downright insulting and sometimes howlingly funny, unless one is offended or insulted by, say, her modern "Ten Commandments," such as the flip "Thou shalt not take the name of Susan Sarandon in vain," or the list of women who are OK to sleep with because you will never stand sleeping with them, so sleeping with them really isn't adultery. By the way, as for coveting thy neighbor's wife, thou shalt not, DeLaria declares, unless she is really cute or amply endowed or your neighbor is your ex.

Duberman, Martin, Martha Vicinus, & Geroge Chauncey, Jr. Hidden from History: Reclaiming the Gay & Lesbian Past.
This anthology brings together for the first time the vital new scholarly studies now lifting the veil from the gay and lesbian past.  Notable researchers illuminate gay and lesbian life as it evolved in places as diverse as the Athens of Plat, Renaissance Italy, Victorian London, Jazz Age Harlem, Revolutionary Russia, Nazi Germany, Castro’s Cuba, post-World War II San Francisco— and peoples as varies as South African black miners, American Indians, Chinese courtiers, Japanese samurai, English schoolboys and girls, and urban working women.  Gender and sexuality, repression and resistance, deviance and acceptance, identity and community – all are given a context in this work. 

Eller, Cynthia. Am I A Woman? A Skeptic's Guide to Gender.
What is it that really makes a woman a woman? Is it anatomy? Does she behave differently than men? Does it matter how others perceive her? In this sharp, funny, and insightful book, Cynthia Eller discovers that the answer is harder to pinpoint than it might seem.

Emack, Laura. At Play: An Anthology of Maine Drama. Collection of plays by Maine authors. Includes play, Ugly Ducklings by Carolyn Gage.

Farstein, Linda. Sexual Violence
For two decades, Linda Farstein has waged war against rape. From directing Manhattan’s Sex Crimes Prosecution Unit to her involvement in nationally prominent rape cases, this is the story of the crimes, the trials, the convictions – and the massive changes within the legal processes that give new hope to sex crime victims. Sexual Violence is a vital commentary on the criminal justice system today, as told by one of its toughest prosecutors.

Friedman, Jaclyn. What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex Safety.
When it comes to sexuality, how do you define yourself in a culture hell-bent on doing it for you? Do you know what you really, really want, and how to get it? This empowering guide will help you navigate the barriers and burdens that too often prevent women from developing a shame-free, blame-free, and fear-free sexuality. What you Really Really Want provides you with the tools to safely and confidently express your sexuality-whatever your desires may be.

Guernsey, JoAnn Bren. Sexual Harassment: A Question of Power.

Haines, Staci. The Survivor’s Guide to Sex: How to Have an Empowered Sex Life After Childhood Sexual Abuse
Move over abuse, and move in pleasure! This book is for all women – heterosexual bisexual, lesbian, partnered and single – who want to delight in their own sexuality. Based on the author’s extensive training and experience in working with abuse survivors, The Survivor’s Guide to Sex offers a complete guide to sexual recovery.

Hennegan, Alison. The Lesbian Pillow Book.
Continuing the eye-catching tradition of our steamy pillow book series here are two new erotic treasures that celebrate homoerotic love through exotic art, prose, and poetry throughout the ages from cultures all over the world.

Jennings, Kevin. Becoming Visible: Reader in Gay and Lesbian History for High School and College Students.
This book explores a wide range of stories that the average reader would NOT be familiar with and these span different cultures, times, and even ethnic groups(including Native American and Chinese, although African stories are less well documented than African-American ones and others. It is deftly set up so that questions after each passage evoke questions and thought, yet it doesn't come across as very academic.

Kissen, Rita M. The Last Closet: The Real Lives of Lesbian and Gay Teachers.
This book tells the story of lesbian and gay teachers as they struggle for dignity in the face of homophobia. It describes the struggles of educators caught between their desire for authenticity and their need for safety - a need that forces most of them to hide a significant part of their identity.

Lamb, Sharon, Ed. The Secret Lives of Girls
Sexual play and acts of aggression are common for girls, according to Lamb, a psychology professor at St. Michael's College, but they are conducted in secrecy and often burden the participants with lifelong guilt. Based on interviews with 122 women and girls from a fairly wide range of socioeconomic and ethnic backgrounds (29 were African-American and 22 Latina), this accessible and engaging study reveals that most girls experience sexual and aggressive feelings.

Madison, Amber. Hooking up: A girl's all out Guide to Sex and Sexuality
Madison, author of a popular sex column in the Tufts University newspaper, offers candid answers to questions young girls feel uncomfortable asking parents or teachers. Madison realizes she was lucky to grow up in a home where sex was discussed openly, but saw many of her friends without resources when it came to sex education beyond the old condom on the banana in health class. Now, at age 22, Madison is still young enough to remember what it was like as a young girl, but experienced enough to offer advice for real-life sexual situations. Sex-positive, empowering and very funny, Madison writes in chatty prose, without eschewing fact or medical accuracy. Starting with the basics ("Vaginas: What the Hell?") she covers menstruation, STDs and birth control before moving onto more complicated issues like how to handle a guy who complains about wearing a condom, what to expect when you do it for the first time and what exactly constitutes a rape. Sensitive issues are approached with humor and realism: when is the right time to lose your virginity? what do guys really think about relationships? what if you find yourself attracted to another girl? This is the book you wish you'd had as a teenage girl.

Phillips, Lynn. Flirting With Danger: Young Women’s Reflections On Sexuality And Domination
In Flirting with Danger, Lynn M. Phillips explores how young women make sense of, resist, and negotiate conflicting cultural messages about sexual agency, responsibility, aggression, and desire. How do women develop their ideas about sex, love, and domination? Why do they express feminist views condemning male violence in the abstract, but often adamantly refuse to name their own violent and exploitive encounters as abuse, rape, or victimization?

Richards, Dell. Lesbian Lists: A Look at Lesbian Cultures, History, and Personalities.
A book of entertaining and informative lists compiled by columnist Dell Richards.

Roszak, Betty and Theodore. Masculine/Feminine
This book offers readings in sexual mythology and the liberation of women. “He is playing masculine. She is playing feminine. He is playing masculine because she is playing feminine. She is playing feminine because he is playing masculine…She is stifling under the triviality of her femininity. The world is groaning beneath the terrors of his masculinity…how do we call off the game?”

Silverman, Sue William. Love Sick: One Woman’s Journey through Sexual Addiction
In this powerful, often lyrical memoir, a woman learns to value herself – as a whole person rather than as a sexual object. Recounting her past experiences as part of her journey toward recovery, Sue William Silverman explores her skewed belief that sex is love, a belief that began with her father’s sexual abuse from her early childhood into adolescence. This utterly candid account may be the first book by a woman to examine sexual addiction. But the misguided search that became Silverman’s life has resonance for other addictions, whether to food, drugs, alcohol, or work – for anyone whose only satisfaction is now.

Smith, Joanne N. Mandy Van Deven, and Meghan Huppuch. Hey, Shorty!: A Guide to Combating Sexual Harassment and Violence in Schools and on the Streets
Sexual harassment and bullying are happening in schools all the time. It’s not unusual for a girl to hear “Hey, Shorty!” as she walks down the hall or comes into the schoolyard, followed by a sexual innuendo, insult, come-on, or assault. Girls for Gender Equity (GGE), has developed a model for teens to teach one another about sexual harassment, what it is and how to prevent it. Here is the story of GGE and the students who have been empowered by these initiatives. Hey, Shorty! Is a guide for youth organizers, students, parents, teachers, and allies committed to building awareness and creating change in any community.

Stockford, Marjorie A. The Bellwomen: The Story of The Landmark At&T Sex Discrimination Case.
In the early 1970s, David Copus, a young lawyer, teamed up with his government colleagues to confront the mature and staid executives of AT&T over the company’s treatment of its female and minority employees. Their disagreement resulted in a $38 million settlement that benefited 15,000 employees, more than 13,000 of them women, and changed our perceptions of women’s and men’s roles in the workplace forever.

Tanenbaum, Leora. Slut! Growing Up Female With a Bad Reputation
The statistics are daunting: "Two out of five girls nationwide have had sexual rumors spread about them," reports Leora Tanenbaum. "Three out of four girls have received sexual comments or looks, and one in five has had sexual messages written about her in public areas." The 50 women interviewed for this book differ greatly in ethnic background, age, and economic status, but they share one thing in common--each of them, along with Tanenbaum herself, was labeled a "slut" in junior high or high school. (And, as recent cases involving Anita Hill and Monica Lewinsky demonstrate, a woman can face such taunts no matter what her age or professional level.) As such, they became victims of a double standard that winks at sexual promiscuity among teenage boys but insists that young women remain virginal and pure. Even worse, the slut bashing is perpetuated in nearly every case by female classmates. In addition to insisting that schools get serious about combating sexual harassment, Tanenbaum urges the development of sex education programs that acknowledge responsible alternatives to abstinence, programs that would recognize the sexual desires of young women (and men) without condemnation. Her social critique is solid, but it's the personal accounts of emotional abuse--and, thankfully, perseverance--that will thoroughly convince you that the current tolerance of slut bashing is simply unacceptable.

Tolman, Deborah L. Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality.
For all the panicky ink devoted to teen sex, until now there has been no academic study on what teenage girls actually want. Tolman, an associate director at the Center for Research on Women at Wellesley College, fills that gap by focusing on girls' desires, rather than on the social ills they're usually quizzed on-pregnancy, disease and dropping out of school.

von Mahlsdorf, Charlotte. I am My Own Wife: The True Story of Charlotte von Mahlsdorf.
Charlotte von Mahlsdorf, born Lothar Berfelde in 1928 in Mahlsdorf, was the son of a benevolent mother and a tyrannical father. At a very early age (seven or eight), he discovered that he liked to wear his mother's old clothes, jauntily noting that "I still have my mania for aprons." His story is not all lightness and lipstick, however. Mahlsdorf recalls being transferred from public to private school after a teacher beat him for making a crack about Hitler Youth. He found a job working after school in an antique furniture store. But then a Jewish co-worker was taken away ("They probably need farm workers in Poland," his employer insisted hopefully), and more and more often they began dealing in "Jewish bequests." Mahlsdorf escaped the war and his father by going with his mother, sister and brother to East Prussia, and from there to stay on his aunt's farm, where he was encouraged and nurtured by his lesbian aunt, herself a cross-dresser. Near the end of the war, when he returned to his home village, he killed his violent father during a confrontation and used a precursor of battered women's syndrome as his defense. Mahlsdorf did not slow down a bit in later years. He recalls creating a house-museum almost from scratch, East Germany's underground gay culture, the persecution he suffered from appearing in women's clothing in public and the divisiveness of the Berlin Wall.

White, Emily. Fast Girls: Teenage Tribes and the Myth of the Slut
Haunted by memories of the way her high school classmates had treated Anna "Wanna" Thomas, the school's designated "slut," former Seattle Stranger editor White decided to investigate the near-universal American myths of the "fast girl" and the actual women behind those myths. She contacted over 150 mostly white women and girls between ages 13 and 55. Typical of them is 25-year-old Madeline, who was rumored in high school to have crabs, AIDS and herpes; had "whore" written in lipstick on her locker; and was beaten up at a party by other girls. White uses the recollections of these women to piece together what she calls the American slut archetype: a girl whose body matures early, who is said to have sex with teams of boys and who is frequently a victim of childhood sexual abuse. White often and sometimes gratuitously cites Foucault, de Beauvoir, Jung, Elaine Showalter and other scholars as she examines why these labels are ever present in the adolescent social universe, and what they reveal about Americans' conflicted attitudes toward female sexuality.

Wolf, Naomi. Promiscuities: The Secret Struggle for Womanhood
In this provocative and highly personal new book, Naomi Wolf speaks to women with searing honesty about a subject that has long been taboo: our sexual coming of age. Promiscuities follows a group of adolescent girls as they gradually become aware of themselves as sexual beings and discover what our culture tells them being female means.